Living a life devoid of pretense

I think that is ultimately what God wants from us. To live openly and honestly with Him and with eachother. We don't need to try and be good people, or bad people. Do we really even have the right to judge the validity of our own actions? I don't think so anymore. I mean if the bible says it is wrong that is different, but even that should not be used to manipulate or control people. The goal of this whole thing is unity with Christ. I guess I should explain what I mean by pretense. Pretense is doing something, saying something, being something for another purpose than Christ. Social acceptance by our peers is pretense. Whether the girl you are into likes you back, or how happy that person makes you is pretense too (not always, but sometimes). Each person for themselves has to find out a way to cease being concerned soley with themselves and learn to be soley concerned for Christ. Through Christ we then proceed to learn how to be soley for other people. This isn't exactly a step 1, step2 thing. but we have to stop doing things for the sake of things. Feeling good is pretense too. Thats scandilous isn't it? but isn't it true? How many times has happiness lead you to Christ instead of away from Him? I think feeling bad can be the same though. It really depends upon the individual. Anyway, just what I've been thinking about.